i guess im just so used to being told that basically arguments with logic, and not feeling (??? ok) make the best points just
sephiramy replied to your post:im really angry that i cant and never really have…You speak perfectly well, and I’ve seen you spearhead causes and make points just fine. You’re saying what you say w/FEELING and that’s all you need.
i dont rly let tone-policing get to me but sometimes it does and i think thats why i wish i spoke well, at least enough to get my points across without making it SEEM like its with emotion, even when (usually) it is
Tone policing is utter bullshit, because it is people trying to remove feelings from something that is (and very well should be) emotionally charged. You cannot remove emotion from an emotional situation, especially one where people are being hurt. To me, that IS actual logical fallacy. How do you remove feelings from feelings, you know? So I know it’s tough to not sweat it and to want to be taken more seriously, but anyone who says that you need to state your points in a cool and collected way or by using certain vocabulary is really saying, to me, “I’m not actually smart enough to discuss this on anyone’s terms but my own.” If they can’t parse the meaning out of phraseology other than their own, they are not 1.) the amazing intellectual giant that they think they are, and 2.) not open-minded enough to be debating issues that they are not personally affected by.
(Also I know you aren’t big on reblogs, so if you want me to delete this, just lemme know!